Introverts parenting extroverts: parenting advice from Care and Feeding. – Slate

A young boy in a soccer uniform holding out a soccer ball.
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Nicole is out today, so we’re publishing a few of her classic Care and Feeding letters.
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Dear Care and Feeding,

My 12-year-old son is an extreme extrovert. He is into band, choir, soccer, swim team, dance class. He is starring in the school musical this year. He has activities pretty much every school night and would love to add more to his calendar.

I, however, am an anxious introvert who hates having to be a “soccer mom,” “stage mom,” “dance mom,” etc. My worst nightmare is being forced to spend tons of time with the other parents of kids in these activities. They assume that we can all donate $50 for matching uniform jackets. Or they make